relationships

My 12 (13,14) year old is looking at porn

Mine isn’t.  Or, at least, I don’t think they are. But for those who discover that their kids are using porn, remember to breathe.  What this is telling you is that your kid is transitioning into adolescence.  And part of that transition very commonly includes sexual curiosity and sexual arousal.  Those are both healthy things … Continue Reading »

First dates aren’t about pleasing somebody

I remember the intense desire to get the attention of a boy that I liked when I was 12 or 13.  It wasn’t a comfortable feeling since I was chronically nervous that I would screw it up or that he would see something about me that was not pleasing to him. Impressing our peer group … Continue Reading »

Cheetos for Breakfast, Porn for Dinner.

Early on in the parenting journey, a lot of time is spent on feeding the kid.  First it might be focused on a mom’s milk supply, then introducing solids in the right order, then ensuring they eat a healthy variety of foods, then ensuring they don’t exclusively eat crap. Tremendous efforts are taken to understand … Continue Reading »