porn

My 12 (13,14) year old is looking at porn

Mine isn’t.  Or, at least, I don’t think they are. But for those who discover that their kids are using porn, remember to breathe.  What this is telling you is that your kid is transitioning into adolescence.  And part of that transition very commonly includes sexual curiosity and sexual arousal.  Those are both healthy things … Continue Reading »

Talking to Our Kids about Porn

Last week I got a call from a parent.  She was beside herself as she explained that she had discovered that her barely 7 year old daughter was looking at porn. Many of us might have a judgey thought or two about monitoring computer time or using parental controls but let’s face it, today, all … Continue Reading »

Hungry Hippos: Starving for good sex ed.

Last week I was lucky enough to spend a couple days offering sexuality education to students in grade 7 through 12. Overwhelmingly, I found them hungry.  Famished, in fact. They are adolescents.  So…. some of them have had sexual experiences with themselves.  Some have had sexual experiences with others.  Some haven’t but are paying close … Continue Reading »

Cheetos for Breakfast, Porn for Dinner.

Early on in the parenting journey, a lot of time is spent on feeding the kid.  First it might be focused on a mom’s milk supply, then introducing solids in the right order, then ensuring they eat a healthy variety of foods, then ensuring they don’t exclusively eat crap. Tremendous efforts are taken to understand … Continue Reading »