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Group Penis Activity

I received a note recently from an individual asking for sex ed counsel. I was offered very little information about the situation that was causing much parental concern. The nominal details included ‘9 year olds’, ‘scout camp’, ‘group penis activity’ and ‘parents are freaking’. I know that the activity in question wasn’t merely a bunch … Continue Reading »

A New Version of Gold. Dealing with Sexual Assault

“This Girl Did This After The Boy At School Twanged Her Bra. What Followed Is Gold.” This headline and its corresponding story have been circulating in my social media streams for the last week.  I’m prepared to celebate any person who defends a woman being harrassed and I particularly like reading about individuals who call … Continue Reading »

Brave talk with a young kid about sex.

I spreak and write all the time about the benefits of talking to young kids about sex and sexuality.  I stand by my perspective that we are doing right by our kids by sharing sound (and developmentally appropriate)  information and our values around sex. And still, it can be hard.  Even where we are progressive, … Continue Reading »

Teaching my Kids Safe Words.

With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »

That’s inappropriate! ART v. OBJECT

Last year I went to the Orpheum, the building which houses the Vancouver Symphony Orchestra, as part of a school field trip with my kids. The google explains that the ‘Orpheum is one of the most beautiful concert halls in North America.‘  I don’t know if that’s true but I know breathtaking when I see it.  Built in … Continue Reading »

Teaching Daughters about Pleasure

[This post was recently featured in Melissa Carr’s blog, The Thirties Grind] Pleasure is good, yes?  We can, I think, admit that experiencing pleasure in life is one of it’s great, um, pleasures.   For some, pleasure a great meal with fine wine and friends.  For others, yoga, a hot bath or a polar bear dip … Continue Reading »

Kissing without consent

Here’s something new. Someone sent me a note seeking advice.  I tried to provide a thoughtful perspective with really tangible ideas for how to move forward. I was told it was helpful so asked if I could post it so others could perhaps benefit.  I’m happy to receive other emails from parents wondering how to … Continue Reading »