Sex play and preschoolers

When I was 5 or 6, I had a play date with Noah.  I remember that we both put a pair of his underwear on over our clothes, turned off his bedroom light, got into his closet and kissed. Noah’s dad came in, invited us out of the closet and out of the underwear and … Continue Reading »

Building Sexual Decision-Making Skills the Google Way

Kids are so smart.  And with the internet at our teenagers fingertips almost all the time, there is amazing opportunity for learning.  Even about sex. We are chronically overwhelmed and frightened for your kids though, aren’t we?  Sexual predators and perversions are lurking everywhere.  Innocent google searches will expose our young to sex workers and … Continue Reading »

My Parents have Sex? Gross.

It seems somewhat likely that our kids will be freaked out at the idea of us getting it on. Tell the truth…is there still a high ‘ick factor’ in knowing that your parents had sex (at least once)? Maybe it doesn’t need to be that way. I’m not saying you want to talk details to … Continue Reading »

Kids: Truth Handlers

Remember the Jack Nicholson and Tom Cruise scene in A Few Good Men…? Jessup: You want answers? Kaffee: I think I’m entitled. Jessep: You want answers? Kaffee: I want the truth. Jessep: YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH! Imagine if our kids asked us something about sex and we responded like Colonel Jessup.  It would be … Continue Reading »

The right age for losing it

Any time teenagers are provided the opportunity to ask me questions about sex and sexuality anonymously they ask the question ‘How old should people be when they have sex for the first time?’ And if they don’t ask that, they ask: What’s the average age for losing your virginity? How will I know when I’m … Continue Reading »

How did your folks do?

                   Did you get ‘the talk’?  Was a book surreptitiously left on your bedside table?  Were your parents dismissive or punitive or completely absent when it came to teaching you about sex?  Did they utter a single word about pleasure? Maybe your parents were liberal, free-spirited people who modeled a certain sexual progressiveness but still … Continue Reading »

My Manifesto. Since every good blog has one.

My Aim Parents have an obligation to provide sexual health information to their kids or, at the very least, to provide access to that information.  And if you don’t feel like you are perfect in this regard, take heart – kids benefit from (and relish in) discovering that their parents are far from perfect. This … Continue Reading »