Camp Gyno

I love it.  I love it because it depicts a young woman excited to have her ‘red badge of courage’.  I love it because menstruation is a word uttered rather than couched behind ‘that time of the month’.  I love it because she says ‘vag’ and because it might compel us as parents to explain … Continue Reading »

Summertime in Vancouver? Check out The Science of Sexuality

Vancouver’s Telus World of Science has always been a great destination for my family.  Whether a place to let my pre-schoolers run and climb or a place for my elementary aged kids to explore, test, feel, watch live shows and learn through experience.  I heart Science World. When Science World announced that The Science of … Continue Reading »

Teaching Daughters about Pleasure

[This post was recently featured in Melissa Carr’s blog, The Thirties Grind] Pleasure is good, yes?  We can, I think, admit that experiencing pleasure in life is one of it’s great, um, pleasures.   For some, pleasure a great meal with fine wine and friends.  For others, yoga, a hot bath or a polar bear dip … Continue Reading »

First dates aren’t about pleasing somebody

I remember the intense desire to get the attention of a boy that I liked when I was 12 or 13.  It wasn’t a comfortable feeling since I was chronically nervous that I would screw it up or that he would see something about me that was not pleasing to him. Impressing our peer group … Continue Reading »

Kissing without consent

Here’s something new. Someone sent me a note seeking advice.  I tried to provide a thoughtful perspective with really tangible ideas for how to move forward. I was told it was helpful so asked if I could post it so others could perhaps benefit.  I’m happy to receive other emails from parents wondering how to … Continue Reading »

The Pill – Birth Control for Control Freaks?

The pill was a game changer. I bow down to its creators – activist Margaret Sanger, Endocrinologist Gregory Pincus, chemist Carl Dieresis, Gynecologist John Rock and biologist, feminist and heiress Katherine McCormick.   In 1960, when the pill was approved for contraceptive use in the US, it changed how women exercise self- determination.  Imagine always fearing … Continue Reading »

Michael Douglas’ oral activities can help our sons

I honestly have no idea why Kim Kardashian is famous and can’t name her sisters.  To me, Farrah was the second hottest Angel (after Kate Jackson of course) and Demi is still married to Bruce Willis.  Ok, I’m not being honest on the last one – I know Demi moved on to Ashton and I … Continue Reading »

Talking about birth over breakfast

Small conversations can make a big impressions and can happen anywhere. Talking to your child at an early age about sex is the first step toward raising them to be good sexual decision-makers.  As they enter junior high and high school, the pressure and messages related to sex and sexuality increases so it’s a good … Continue Reading »

Gender is messy, get used to it. (part 2)

In my last post I tried to break down sex and gender into simple and understandable parts.  I’m sure it could be clearer.  In this post I offer real life examples that I hope provide some of that clarity since stories can make things real and contexualize theory. Quick review: If gender refers to the … Continue Reading »