Sexually Transmitted Infection Campaigns that Promote Sex. YES.

I sometimes wonder if I downplay the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when I talk to kids about sex and to parents about sex-positive parenting. It’s not that I don’t want people understanding that STIs are a real risk.  It’s just that protecting ourselves requires more than a condom.  It requires a belief that … Continue Reading »

Van Love for Tweeners

I’m blessed to live in a great city.  It’s physically a beautiful place on the ocean and by the mountains.  The city has a rich cultural life, great food and pretty great city services too.  I’ve always said that it’s a wonderful place to raise kids. As someone committed both personally and professionally to young … Continue Reading »

Teaching my Kids Safe Words.

With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »

That’s inappropriate! ART v. OBJECT

Last year I went to the Orpheum, the building which houses the Vancouver Symphony Orchestra, as part of a school field trip with my kids. The google explains that the ‘Orpheum is one of the most beautiful concert halls in North America.‘  I don’t know if that’s true but I know breathtaking when I see it.  Built in … Continue Reading »

New webinars make great gifts for 2014

Guess what? 2014 is the year for learning how to raise sexually intelligent kids. If you have a kid, are going to have a kid, know someone with a kid. If you’re an uncle, aunt, grandparent, god-parent. If you’re a teacher, coach or Big Brother (or sister). Any adult who is commited to seeing young … Continue Reading »

Puberty: A laundry list of changes worth talking about.

I just read a terrible article about puberty milestones. It bugged me so much that I’m not going to provide the link because I don’t want the site getting traffic on it. The topics of import that the writer chose to focus on included the all important shaving, deodorant, waxing (since hair removal wasn’t adequately … Continue Reading »

The Transition into Adolescence

I was walking home with my 9 year old last week and he shared an interesting perspective with me.  He said ‘when I think about 8 year olds, it feels like so much younger than me even though I’m only a year older.’ I mean, I know he’s brilliant and all but I thought that … Continue Reading »

No touching! That will teach you…

An elementary school in Langley British Columbia has been in the news for the last few days because it recently implemented a ‘no-hands’ recess policy for kids in kindergarden.  Ya, you read that right.  Because of a number of injuries, the school has ‘ban[ned] all forms of hands-on play’.  This includes ‘tag, holding hands and … Continue Reading »