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Confronting our own sexual shame

I think we can all agree that sex is intimate, personal and totally natural.  And it probably doesn’t come as a surprise to hear that as long as people have been having sex, they’ve been doing it in creative ways. Despite all this natural but varied activity, we all hold shame around ideas of sex … Continue Reading »

Fuck. It’s just a word, right?

Somewhere along the way our kids learn the word fuck.  Maybe a three year old says it and we laugh (So cute! So outrageous!), or sometimes a 6 year old figures out it’s got weight and throws it about with force (I’ve heard a kid say ‘fuck you, dada!’ with a vengeance).  Regardless of when … Continue Reading »

Your almost pregnant teen

Your daughter just had a pregnancy scare.  She was freaked out but maybe not as much as you. What are you going to do about it now that she is comfortably on the couch, a pad with wings between her legs and the hot water bottle resting on her belly? While archaic responses like the … Continue Reading »

Girls got schwing

Garth and Wayne (Dana Carvey and Mike Myers) brought the term ‘schwing’ to our urban lexicon.  The suburban, hockey playin’, Led Zeppelin lovin’ boys of Wayne’s World would ‘schwing’ when talking about or when seeing an attractive woman.  Schwing is a physical response that Wayne and Garth could not control.  Their bodies were sending them … Continue Reading »

Cheetos for Breakfast, Porn for Dinner.

Early on in the parenting journey, a lot of time is spent on feeding the kid.  First it might be focused on a mom’s milk supply, then introducing solids in the right order, then ensuring they eat a healthy variety of foods, then ensuring they don’t exclusively eat crap. Tremendous efforts are taken to understand … Continue Reading »

Private Time in the Loo: What are the rules in your house?

When my kids were toddlers, it was impossible to pee without them joining me in the bathroom.  They generally hung off a leg or insisted on sitting on my lap.  As that particular form of attachment lessened, I relished the 90 seconds of privacy I could grab. It was the ultimate experience of ‘me time’.  … Continue Reading »

Vaginas don’t have tastebuds

I love hearing about kids that are making logical connections about sex.  ‘But vaginas don’t have tastebuds’ was an 11 year olds response when her older brother declared that he had been to a store that had grape flavored condoms. First I thought about how smart she is.  Then it reminded me of bubble gum … Continue Reading »