New webinars make great gifts for 2014

Guess what? 2014 is the year for learning how to raise sexually intelligent kids. If you have a kid, are going to have a kid, know someone with a kid. If you’re an uncle, aunt, grandparent, god-parent. If you’re a teacher, coach or Big Brother (or sister). Any adult who is commited to seeing young … Continue Reading »

Puberty: A laundry list of changes worth talking about.

I just read a terrible article about puberty milestones. It bugged me so much that I’m not going to provide the link because I don’t want the site getting traffic on it. The topics of import that the writer chose to focus on included the all important shaving, deodorant, waxing (since hair removal wasn’t adequately … Continue Reading »

The Transition into Adolescence

I was walking home with my 9 year old last week and he shared an interesting perspective with me.  He said ‘when I think about 8 year olds, it feels like so much younger than me even though I’m only a year older.’ I mean, I know he’s brilliant and all but I thought that … Continue Reading »

No touching! That will teach you…

An elementary school in Langley British Columbia has been in the news for the last few days because it recently implemented a ‘no-hands’ recess policy for kids in kindergarden.  Ya, you read that right.  Because of a number of injuries, the school has ‘ban[ned] all forms of hands-on play’.  This includes ‘tag, holding hands and … Continue Reading »

I’m Touching My Vulva

An old roommate of mine, Kelly, ran a pre-school in our beautiful back yard in Santa Barbara, California through the 1990s.  She was an amazing educator.  Inclusive, creative, joyful and honest in her approach with kids. Preschoolers often ran barefoot and bare-chested in our yard among the chickens, cats and orange trees.  It was a … Continue Reading »

Aunties and Uncles can be Sex Educators too!

I recently had a conversation with a dad about raising his daughters to be sexually intelligent kids. He asked if there are some conversations that are better initiated by someone other than a parent when it comes to the oftentimes awkward sex talks. My answer is a resounding maybe. Here’s the thing: We all have … Continue Reading »

Chants & Pranks. What will you do about them?

Frosh week chants have drawn the attention of many Canadians these past weeks. Yelling, as part of a group, about non-consensual underage sex somehow seemed okay to the  students at east and west coasts universities.  In some cases administrations are providing shelter to chanting students – explaining that while inappropriate it is forgivable and mostly … Continue Reading »

Bathroom words.

Pee, poo, bum, urine, stool, penis, piss, shit. It’s like the kid version of The Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television by George Carlin. “Mommy, I’m going to tell you all the bathroom words, okay?” he said “Okay.” I said “But not the inappropriate ones.” he clarified. “Okay.”  I said.    “Pee, poo, bum, … Continue Reading »

Sex ed at Sleepover Camp

A lot of kids learn how to sail. Or learn how to use a compass and map. Or improve their tennis. Complete a swimming level or star in a musical. Some of those happened for me when I was 12, 13 and 14, but on reflection, sleep-over camp was predominantly about socialization. Camp is an … Continue Reading »