Communication

A Titanic week: Sex education lessons from a doomed ship

I recently watched Titanic with my kids. It’s such an epic movie. I can honestly say that I love it. Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet are both so hunky,  young and vibrant. And that ship!  It’s so big, and fancy, and doomed! There’s a scene in the movie where the two of them have sex.  … Continue Reading »

Group Penis Activity

I received a note recently from an individual asking for sex ed counsel. I was offered very little information about the situation that was causing much parental concern. The nominal details included ‘9 year olds’, ‘scout camp’, ‘group penis activity’ and ‘parents are freaking’. I know that the activity in question wasn’t merely a bunch … Continue Reading »

‘I know I know’. When kids shut down sex ed.

Most kids (please tell me it’s not just mine) have a trigger-happy response to many of the things we attempt to communicate to them.  ’I know I know’ often flies out of the mouths of my young ones. If claims of ‘I know’ have shut us down in the past, made us feel like the … Continue Reading »

My 12 (13,14) year old is looking at porn

Mine isn’t.  Or, at least, I don’t think they are. But for those who discover that their kids are using porn, remember to breathe.  What this is telling you is that your kid is transitioning into adolescence.  And part of that transition very commonly includes sexual curiosity and sexual arousal.  Those are both healthy things … Continue Reading »

Watching Reruns with your Kids is Great Sex Ed.

I write all the time about talking to kids about sex.  But the truth is, for many parents finding ways to broach the subject can feel super awkward and weird. Once you are IN the conversation, it goes swimmingly, but getting there can be tough.  Maybe you can’t find the right segue or you get … Continue Reading »

Talking to Our Kids about Porn

Last week I got a call from a parent.  She was beside herself as she explained that she had discovered that her barely 7 year old daughter was looking at porn. Many of us might have a judgey thought or two about monitoring computer time or using parental controls but let’s face it, today, all … Continue Reading »

The Swimsuit Issue. Talking about sexualized images

My 10 year old doesn’t gravitate to Sports Illustrated but in due course he likely will since the usual content is up his alley.  It may be that he’ll see the Swimsuit Edition before its specific contents attracts him (if in fact it ever will). What would he think about the current cover?  What about … Continue Reading »