Sexually intelligent

Helping kids notice sexuality and sexualization.

Spring weather.  I love it. Flip-flops are here and people are striping off their winter clothes and are showing more skin. Getting rid of the Michelin Man look of winter apparel is something that I’ve always really liked.  I like seeing the shapes of bodies.  I like seeing shoulders. I like seeing tattoos. I like … Continue Reading »

Sexually Transmitted Infection Campaigns that Promote Sex. YES.

I sometimes wonder if I downplay the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when I talk to kids about sex and to parents about sex-positive parenting. It’s not that I don’t want people understanding that STIs are a real risk.  It’s just that protecting ourselves requires more than a condom.  It requires a belief that … Continue Reading »

Teaching my Kids Safe Words.

With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »

That’s inappropriate! ART v. OBJECT

Last year I went to the Orpheum, the building which houses the Vancouver Symphony Orchestra, as part of a school field trip with my kids. The google explains that the ‘Orpheum is one of the most beautiful concert halls in North America.‘  I don’t know if that’s true but I know breathtaking when I see it.  Built in … Continue Reading »

New webinars make great gifts for 2014

Guess what? 2014 is the year for learning how to raise sexually intelligent kids. If you have a kid, are going to have a kid, know someone with a kid. If you’re an uncle, aunt, grandparent, god-parent. If you’re a teacher, coach or Big Brother (or sister). Any adult who is commited to seeing young … Continue Reading »

I’m Touching My Vulva

An old roommate of mine, Kelly, ran a pre-school in our beautiful back yard in Santa Barbara, California through the 1990s.  She was an amazing educator.  Inclusive, creative, joyful and honest in her approach with kids. Preschoolers often ran barefoot and bare-chested in our yard among the chickens, cats and orange trees.  It was a … Continue Reading »

Aunties and Uncles can be Sex Educators too!

I recently had a conversation with a dad about raising his daughters to be sexually intelligent kids. He asked if there are some conversations that are better initiated by someone other than a parent when it comes to the oftentimes awkward sex talks. My answer is a resounding maybe. Here’s the thing: We all have … Continue Reading »