Sexually intelligent

The Swimsuit Issue. Talking about sexualized images

My 10 year old doesn’t gravitate to Sports Illustrated but in due course he likely will since the usual content is up his alley.  It may be that he’ll see the Swimsuit Edition before its specific contents attracts him (if in fact it ever will). What would he think about the current cover?  What about … Continue Reading »

A ‘No Touch’ Policy Makes No Sense.

Whether a firm and written policy or an unspoken rule,  prohibiting touch is just no good. A Toronto girls hockey league has told coaches they can’t touch players on the bench.  It’s a zero-tolerance policy and I have zero tolerance for it. Sexual abuse of kids in sports is real. We have begun to face … Continue Reading »

Kids, sex and smart phones: Let’s face it without hysteria.

Campaigns urging parents to ban cellphones and internet use in the bedrooms of children and teens is not new.  And I’m a fan of setting limits around our kids technology use but the latest parental call to action is framed around protecting kids from online preditors and sexual exploitation. I know sexual exploitation is real. … Continue Reading »

Brave talk with a young kid about sex.

I spreak and write all the time about the benefits of talking to young kids about sex and sexuality.  I stand by my perspective that we are doing right by our kids by sharing sound (and developmentally appropriate)  information and our values around sex. And still, it can be hard.  Even where we are progressive, … Continue Reading »

Talking about sexuality in the Waldorf world

I recently spent two days at a New York State Waldorf school.  I know a bit about the Waldorf educational movement.  I have some friends who were Waldorf educated and know folks who chose it for their own kids.  While I don’t choose it for my children, I appreciate this thoughtful approach taken by others.  … Continue Reading »

Hungry Hippos: Starving for good sex ed.

Last week I was lucky enough to spend a couple days offering sexuality education to students in grade 7 through 12. Overwhelmingly, I found them hungry.  Famished, in fact. They are adolescents.  So…. some of them have had sexual experiences with themselves.  Some have had sexual experiences with others.  Some haven’t but are paying close … Continue Reading »