Sex as pleasure

Sexually Transmitted Infection Campaigns that Promote Sex. YES.

I sometimes wonder if I downplay the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when I talk to kids about sex and to parents about sex-positive parenting. It’s not that I don’t want people understanding that STIs are a real risk.  It’s just that protecting ourselves requires more than a condom.  It requires a belief that … Continue Reading »

Teaching my Kids Safe Words.

With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »

New webinars make great gifts for 2014

Guess what? 2014 is the year for learning how to raise sexually intelligent kids. If you have a kid, are going to have a kid, know someone with a kid. If you’re an uncle, aunt, grandparent, god-parent. If you’re a teacher, coach or Big Brother (or sister). Any adult who is commited to seeing young … Continue Reading »

Sex talk on a Canoe Trip

In 1994 I was a tripper at an Ontario summer camp and led a canoe trip with six 14-year old girls and two of their 17-year old counsellors. I was 24 at the time. Since the mosquitos were on a feeding frenzy, one evening all nine of us squished into a 4-person tent to pass … Continue Reading »

Summertime in Vancouver? Check out The Science of Sexuality

Vancouver’s Telus World of Science has always been a great destination for my family.  Whether a place to let my pre-schoolers run and climb or a place for my elementary aged kids to explore, test, feel, watch live shows and learn through experience.  I heart Science World. When Science World announced that The Science of … Continue Reading »

Teaching Daughters about Pleasure

[This post was recently featured in Melissa Carr’s blog, The Thirties Grind] Pleasure is good, yes?  We can, I think, admit that experiencing pleasure in life is one of it’s great, um, pleasures.   For some, pleasure a great meal with fine wine and friends.  For others, yoga, a hot bath or a polar bear dip … Continue Reading »

‘That’s so gay’

We hear it at the bar and the gym.  They hear it in the playground and at summer camp. People just fling it out there without consideration of its impact. For people who identify as gay or a person reconciling their sexual orientation, the connection between homo and stupid can feel mean- spirited. It can … Continue Reading »