Cripes. Yesterday my nine year old declared that the song ‘Talk Dirty to Me’ is his favourite. I didn’t know the song, but of course found the title challenging. With his 7 year old brother in the car, I asked him if he knew what the phrase ‘talk dirty to me’ means. He said he … Continue Reading »
I sometimes wonder if I downplay the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when I talk to kids about sex and to parents about sex-positive parenting. It’s not that I don’t want people understanding that STIs are a real risk. It’s just that protecting ourselves requires more than a condom. It requires a belief that … Continue Reading »
With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »
Guess what? 2014 is the year for learning how to raise sexually intelligent kids. If you have a kid, are going to have a kid, know someone with a kid. If you’re an uncle, aunt, grandparent, god-parent. If you’re a teacher, coach or Big Brother (or sister). Any adult who is commited to seeing young … Continue Reading »
A huge shout out to TEDx Renfrew Collingwood for hosting this event. And to my fellow speakers too. It was a great day full of inspired big ideas.
In 1994 I was a tripper at an Ontario summer camp and led a canoe trip with six 14-year old girls and two of their 17-year old counsellors. I was 24 at the time. Since the mosquitos were on a feeding frenzy, one evening all nine of us squished into a 4-person tent to pass … Continue Reading »
Vancouver’s Telus World of Science has always been a great destination for my family. Whether a place to let my pre-schoolers run and climb or a place for my elementary aged kids to explore, test, feel, watch live shows and learn through experience. I heart Science World. When Science World announced that The Science of … Continue Reading »
[This post was recently featured in Melissa Carr’s blog, The Thirties Grind] Pleasure is good, yes? We can, I think, admit that experiencing pleasure in life is one of it’s great, um, pleasures. For some, pleasure a great meal with fine wine and friends. For others, yoga, a hot bath or a polar bear dip … Continue Reading »
We hear it at the bar and the gym. They hear it in the playground and at summer camp. People just fling it out there without consideration of its impact. For people who identify as gay or a person reconciling their sexual orientation, the connection between homo and stupid can feel mean- spirited. It can … Continue Reading »
Teach your kids about dirty talk (’cause it builds open communication, supports enthusiastic consent and is hot).
I imagined her lying flat on her back, being fucked. Thirteen years young and engaging in sexual intercourse. Physiologically old enough to get pregnant, emotionally unprepared for sex. I don’t hold firm ideas about ‘the right age for doing it’ but when I sat across from a young woman and her friend, to provide sexual … Continue Reading »