Decision making

Group Penis Activity

I received a note recently from an individual asking for sex ed counsel. I was offered very little information about the situation that was causing much parental concern. The nominal details included ‘9 year olds’, ‘scout camp’, ‘group penis activity’ and ‘parents are freaking’. I know that the activity in question wasn’t merely a bunch … Continue Reading »

‘I know I know’. When kids shut down sex ed.

Most kids (please tell me it’s not just mine) have a trigger-happy response to many of the things we attempt to communicate to them.  ’I know I know’ often flies out of the mouths of my young ones. If claims of ‘I know’ have shut us down in the past, made us feel like the … Continue Reading »

My 12 (13,14) year old is looking at porn

Mine isn’t.  Or, at least, I don’t think they are. But for those who discover that their kids are using porn, remember to breathe.  What this is telling you is that your kid is transitioning into adolescence.  And part of that transition very commonly includes sexual curiosity and sexual arousal.  Those are both healthy things … Continue Reading »

The IUD – Great birth control for teens.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention think Long-Acting Reversible Contraception options are best for teens having vaginal intercourse and wishing to prevent preganacy. The American Academy of Pediatrics and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists endorse the usage of LARCs as birth control for teens too.  Hormonal implants and intrauterine devices are very … Continue Reading »

Watching Reruns with your Kids is Great Sex Ed.

I write all the time about talking to kids about sex.  But the truth is, for many parents finding ways to broach the subject can feel super awkward and weird. Once you are IN the conversation, it goes swimmingly, but getting there can be tough.  Maybe you can’t find the right segue or you get … Continue Reading »

A New Version of Gold. Dealing with Sexual Assault

“This Girl Did This After The Boy At School Twanged Her Bra. What Followed Is Gold.” This headline and its corresponding story have been circulating in my social media streams for the last week.  I’m prepared to celebate any person who defends a woman being harrassed and I particularly like reading about individuals who call … Continue Reading »

A ‘No Touch’ Policy Makes No Sense.

Whether a firm and written policy or an unspoken rule,  prohibiting touch is just no good. A Toronto girls hockey league has told coaches they can’t touch players on the bench.  It’s a zero-tolerance policy and I have zero tolerance for it. Sexual abuse of kids in sports is real. We have begun to face … Continue Reading »

Kids, sex and smart phones: Let’s face it without hysteria.

Campaigns urging parents to ban cellphones and internet use in the bedrooms of children and teens is not new.  And I’m a fan of setting limits around our kids technology use but the latest parental call to action is framed around protecting kids from online preditors and sexual exploitation. I know sexual exploitation is real. … Continue Reading »