‘What? He’s Gay?’ – Shifting Kids from Heteronormative Assumptions

My eldest loves popular music.  And I often cringe at his choices and communicate what troubles me about songs that he sings along to.  But his favorite musician right now is Sam Smith which I love since this dashing young crooner has a beautiful voice and seems like a genuinely good guy.

A recent project in school required my kid to print the lyrics of a song and write about them.  He chose Sam Smith’s Stay with Me and explained that he likes it because it’s about needing love and affection.  In his explanation, my son referenced ‘his girlfriend’, to which my partner said ‘Actually, boyfriend – Sam Smith is gay’.  To which my kid said ‘What? I didn’t know that.’

We then had a short convo about assumptions (why would anyone assume Sam Smith is straight or gay in the first place?) and how this song is universal and can apply to anyone no matter what their sexual orientation.  The song is also a goodie for talking about how men are emotional, want (and deserve) love and affection, and do not always seek one night stands.Screen Shot 2015-01-28 at 10.05.46 AM

I’m so glad he loves Sam Smith but oh. my. god. it kills me that he needs to listen to the same songs over and over and over again.

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