Cheetos for Breakfast, Porn for Dinner.

Early on in the parenting journey, a lot of time is spent on feeding the kid.  First it might be focused on a mom’s milk supply, then introducing solids in the right order, then ensuring they eat a healthy variety of junk-food-industryfoods, then ensuring they don’t exclusively eat crap.

Tremendous efforts are taken to understand the nutritional needs of our children.  And energy is rightly devoted to passing good habits on to our kids about food.  I constantly distinguish the proteins from the carbohydrates; Often point out that their vegetable quotient is low, and harp about how another buttered bagel isn’t what their body really needs.

If we devoted the same time and energy to passing on good values and habits around sex and sexuality, I think we could change a bunch of the nasty in the world. If we agree that kids are naturally and rightfully curious, how can we leave most of them to not have an adult to talk to openly about their sexual health.

Sex is sold to our kids in advertisements and music videos.  We live at a time when a thriving porn industry isn’t a slightly out of reach shelf in the convenience store or a clandestine visit to a seedy movie theatre but rather is pervasive, (often unavoidable) and at the touch of a button on any hand held device.

Despite this, we go to extensive lengths to ignore and avoid the subject with our kids.  And when young women, like Rehtaeh Parsons of Coal Harbour, Nova Scotia, are sexually assaulted, we close our eyes and just hope it won’t be our daughters or sons who are the victims or perpetrators of such crimes.

We are collectively responsible for breaking the pattern. We need to teach our young people about relationships, communication, negotiation, emotions, decision-making, empathy and respect for themselves and others.

As adults, we need to get past our own hang ups and issues to help our kids.

We won’t let them eat crap all the time, will we?

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Today I’m a guest blogger! Visit www.embracethechaos.ca for a post on telling my son about sexual assault.  A hard conversation but hopefully I’m breaking the pattern.

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