I Keep Finding Clit

When I play boggle with my son.

It’s a legitimate word, right?  Or do you play that short forms are not allowed?  Either way, I’ve played two games in the last 3 days where I found – and didn’t write down – the word clit.

photoWhy didn’t I?  He doesn’t know the word or the body part.  He isn’t particularly shy when  I introduce new ideas or information to him about sex or sexuality.  And still, each time I see those four letters connect on the 4×4 boggle grid, I redirect my gaze toward a different 4 letter combination.  Oh look, there’s ‘flit’.  Perfect.

I don’t have an answer and reasonable explanation as to why I didn’t write it down.  I would in a boggle tournament with just about anyone else.   I consider myself very open when it comes to teaching my kids about biology as it relates to sex.  But there it is, I avoided the word clit twice.

Any suggestions on how I could have handled it differently?

 

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  1. Ha! Just had a similar experience. Was watching my nearly 11 year old daughter play a word/card game called Quiddler with a family friend (same age boy) and the friend’s Dad.

    Object of the game: to get all the cards in your hand (each of which has a letter or letter combination, like “cl”) hooked up into words first.

    Well, when my daughter came upon CLIT in her hand and went to put it down, with a slight smirk, she knew right away by the Dad’s response that putting clit down wasn’t going to fly.

    And so, she took it up, found some other word, all the while with the 10 year old boy asking over and over, “What’s clit? What’s clit?”, and nobody, myself included, providing the simple explanation.
    Eventually, he let up, as play continued and no one acted titillated. (clitillated?)

    While my daughter knows what clit means, what it’s short for, and where hers is and what it feels like when she touches that part of her body, I do have a theory as to why most adults shy away from explaining the meaning of this (and some other) words to describe certain body parts.

    When a “private” body part has multiple functions, like the penis, through which a boy urinates and ejaculates, it is easy to reference it by name, because you can talk about its (for lack of a better term) more practical functionality. Penises for peeing, breasts for feeding, vaginas for birthing, etc. but the clitoris? Well now, pure, unadulterated sexual pleasure. And that part of sexuality is a much less comfortable place for most parents to go with their kids.

    What’s up with that? That’d be my question.

    Thanks for your great blog! I look forward to more posts.

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