The Ins and Outs of Keeping a Hoohoo Healthy

One of the interesting/challenging side effects of having Sexplainer is spam.  Last week that meant an email promoting Healthy Hoohoo. That’s right – available in a wipe, foamer or wash.  It’s gluten-free (!) and apparently removes hoohoo odour causing bacteria. Healthy Hoohoo hogwash, I say. Women struggle to have healthy relationships with their Hoohoos and … Continue Reading »

Helping kids notice sexuality and sexualization.

Spring weather.  I love it. Flip-flops are here and people are striping off their winter clothes and are showing more skin. Getting rid of the Michelin Man look of winter apparel is something that I’ve always really liked.  I like seeing the shapes of bodies.  I like seeing shoulders. I like seeing tattoos. I like … Continue Reading »

What I wish I had known when I entered puberty

I’ve written before about G Day for Girls and it’s concept to celebrate and empower girls ages 10-12 as they transition into adolescence.  The event was a few days ago and it was pretty awesome.  I’ve written about puberty before but I thought I would share with all of you the top 10 list that … Continue Reading »

Hair. Here, There, Everywhere.

I’ve been thinking about hair lately.  Perhaps I’m thinking about hair because I have a lot of it right now.  I can date photos based on hair length (and increasing amounts of grey hair or the need for hats) since every few years for the last 25 I’ve cut off all my hair and eventually … Continue Reading »

Sex Ed double standards hurt us all.

I ran into an old colleague last month and had a quick catch up. After telling him about my sex ed efforts, he muttered about  needing to have ‘that talk’ with his kids soon.  He has a 14 year old son and 16 year old daughter and I have no doubts that there have been … Continue Reading »

Sexually Transmitted Infection Campaigns that Promote Sex. YES.

I sometimes wonder if I downplay the risks of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) when I talk to kids about sex and to parents about sex-positive parenting. It’s not that I don’t want people understanding that STIs are a real risk.  It’s just that protecting ourselves requires more than a condom.  It requires a belief that … Continue Reading »

Van Love for Tweeners

I’m blessed to live in a great city.  It’s physically a beautiful place on the ocean and by the mountains.  The city has a rich cultural life, great food and pretty great city services too.  I’ve always said that it’s a wonderful place to raise kids. As someone committed both personally and professionally to young … Continue Reading »

Teaching my Kids Safe Words.

With 50 Shades of Grey having made it’s way into mainstream culture, adults who have vanilla sex* lives are getting a smidge of inside knowledge on power play during sexual activity. In fact, kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina … Continue Reading »

That’s inappropriate! ART v. OBJECT

Last year I went to the Orpheum, the building which houses the Vancouver Symphony Orchestra, as part of a school field trip with my kids. The google explains that the ‘Orpheum is one of the most beautiful concert halls in North America.‘  I don’t know if that’s true but I know breathtaking when I see it.  Built in … Continue Reading »