A New Version of Gold. Dealing with Sexual Assault

“This Girl Did This After The Boy At School Twanged Her Bra. What Followed Is Gold.” This headline and its corresponding story have been circulating in my social media streams for the last week.  I’m prepared to celebate any person who defends a woman being harrassed and I particularly like reading about individuals who call … Continue Reading »

Talking to Our Kids about Porn

Last week I got a call from a parent.  She was beside herself as she explained that she had discovered that her barely 7 year old daughter was looking at porn. Many of us might have a judgey thought or two about monitoring computer time or using parental controls but let’s face it, today, all … Continue Reading »

The Swimsuit Issue. Talking about sexualized images

My 10 year old doesn’t gravitate to Sports Illustrated but in due course he likely will since the usual content is up his alley.  It may be that he’ll see the Swimsuit Edition before its specific contents attracts him (if in fact it ever will). What would he think about the current cover?  What about … Continue Reading »

A ‘No Touch’ Policy Makes No Sense.

Whether a firm and written policy or an unspoken rule,  prohibiting touch is just no good. A Toronto girls hockey league has told coaches they can’t touch players on the bench.  It’s a zero-tolerance policy and I have zero tolerance for it. Sexual abuse of kids in sports is real. We have begun to face … Continue Reading »

Kids, sex and smart phones: Let’s face it without hysteria.

Campaigns urging parents to ban cellphones and internet use in the bedrooms of children and teens is not new.  And I’m a fan of setting limits around our kids technology use but the latest parental call to action is framed around protecting kids from online preditors and sexual exploitation. I know sexual exploitation is real. … Continue Reading »

Brave talk with a young kid about sex.

I spreak and write all the time about the benefits of talking to young kids about sex and sexuality.  I stand by my perspective that we are doing right by our kids by sharing sound (and developmentally appropriate)  information and our values around sex. And still, it can be hard.  Even where we are progressive, … Continue Reading »